Positivity Is A Must

Okay y’all. Me writing about “positivity” is probably one of the most hypocritical things I have ever done. In general, especially lately, I am just a very straight to the point and negative person. But, last night, I had an epiphany. The past few months I have been over the top stressed, exhausted, and honestly have hated my life. Well, last night it hit me. I was asking myself why I felt that way, and I realized that my attitude and negativity lately is MY own reaction to things happening in my life. Whether it has directly or indirectly affected me, I react negatively.

This is so horrible. Y’all, I used to be the gal that was so happy and bubbly people hated me! Haha. No joke. So the question is, how can I work on this and become less of a grumpis. Yes, a grumpis. I used that word. So what I realized during my epiphany is that I can only change how I react to Life, not control life itself. Life is always going to happen. I can’t stop it. I can’t control it. All I can do is accept what is and improve how I handle life!


God has blessed my with life. He blessed me with a beautiful life, in fact. I have a home. I have a family who loves me and friends who are always there for me. God has given me the tools to get through life. What I do and how I react is totally up to me. I have lost sight of this, but I am forever grateful for what I have been given.


One of my biggest faults right here. Y’all, way too often I am jumping ten steps ahead while everyone else is at the starting line. It’s just how my brain works. It plots out every possible scenario when something happens. Sometimes this is super helpful, like when I am working, or looking at our budgets, things like that, but it’s not always so wonderful. I need to remember to live in each moment. I should stop and look around, appreciate the beauty in the world, and appreciate every breath I take. I’m so busy planning my life, it’s literally happening without me.


Life gets hard for everyone. Sometimes I literally think bad things only happen to myself, which is awful, but sometimes I just want to scream, “how can so many bad things happen to one person?” I felt this way for a very long time and then I realized that God has a plan. Everything that happens is specifically chosen for us; every fall, every lost job, every flat tire, every single thing happens for a reason. We don’t always understand that reason, but I think having the mindset that we are strong enough to get through whatever is going on, that He believes in us, we can conquer anything put in front of us.


Life gets busy. Life gets messy. We stop seeing people we care about. We quit building our dreams. We get so tired trying to get through the day-to-day life that we stop doing what we love. I read a quote the other day that said, “Don’t work 8 hours a day for someone else and then go home and not work on your own dreams. You’re not tired. You’re uninspired.” That one really hit home for me. I get so irritated during my day, I honestly quit doing anything that made me happy. What I realized is that I need to keep doing the things I love, and the things that make me happy, and then other aspects in my life might not seem so bad.

Obviously this is my own experience on how I feel about things, but hopefully it helps and applies to some of y’all as well. until next time!


Sincerely, Toni




One thought on “Positivity Is A Must

  1. You make some very goood points and in reading your blog today, I am reminded of a saying that I had forgotten “you can’t control what happens, all you can control is how you react to what is happening”.

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